“It’s natural for people to doubt me because of my appearance, but the limits others place on me often become a burden. At a very young age, I understood the importance of credibility. So I make it a point to always show who I am by actions and not simply by words; to back things up instead of making false promises. That way people can take heart and believe in me.”
This excerpt is taken from Kyle Maynard’s book, “No Excuses.” Kyle was born a congenital amputee and not only became a champion in wrestling, but in life. We share many of the same dreams as well as the same fears. Our disabilities are evident, and therefore, we have been judged as soon as we are seen. More often than not, disabled people are viewed as inferior – broken. Many people consider us a drain on society, having nothing to contribute.
I happen to believe we are all disabled in one way or another. Some may have no character, no drive, or no ambition. These can be considered defects as well. Whether these flaws are physical, emotional or psychological, they contribute to a lack of self-confidence.
If we are going to feel any self-worth, find success not only in life, but, more importantly, happiness within as well, we have to find ways to go above and beyond the limitations our flaws have restricted us to.
People are going to look at me as the quad in a wheelchair or Kyle as the young man with no arms and no legs. Our desire is for them to see beyond the chair – beyond the lack of limbs.
We want to achieve the dreams we have always had. And regardless of the fact that we are in wheelchairs standing 3’ 6” tall, we will attain them. We have the drive to succeed, to not allow our physical limitations to stand in the way of our dreams.
Unfortunately, many people with physical disabilities feel shunned and keep to themselves. Did you know that 10% of the world’s population has some sort of physical disability? That’s approximately 650 million people. True; not all are in wheelchairs. However, those statistics are climbing. But, think about it – how often do you see a person in a wheelchair.
Why do so many that are confined in chairs stay “confined” in their homes as well? And why do those with other handicaps, such as low self-esteem or fear of people not liking them for who they are, make no effort to go out and reach for acceptance and happiness? Disarm your disability and your goals, your dreams are there for the taking.
"Some people are always grumbling because roses have thorns; I am thankful that thorns have roses."